her SELF:

An IFS-Informed Virtual Therapy Group for Women

 

with Sara Avant Stover 

 

8 Tuesdays | 11 am - 1 pm MT 

 

December 2021 - February 2022

Limited to 20 women. Registration closes on December 1. 

 

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Have you ever told yourself that you were going to start eating better, meditating, exercising more, or going to sleep earlier– and then not followed through with it?

Perhaps you've told yourself you were going to stop doing something (like smoking, drinking, binging, or spending too much time online), but then weren't able to shift your behavior? 

Or, have you ever had an inner conversation with yourself where you say, "A part of me thinks this, but another part of me wants to do that"?

Hello, inner wars and self-sabotage!

Yeah, well, me too.

That’s why I’m creating this group. This space will allow us to look at ourselves from the perspective that we all have a place inside of us called a Self (some traditions call this your Buddha-nature, or your essence).

From this place, we experience different states of being, things like calmness and compassion, confidence and courage. 

You get the idea, right? 

Well, we also have all kinds of thoughts and feelings and emotions that can totally overwhelm and hijack us– things like anxiety, depression, anger, loneliness, overdoing, and numbing out. Things that can negatively impact not only ourselves but also our relationships– even if we don't want them to.

In this group, we’ll work with those parts of you that can become extreme and overwhelm you. And I can teach you how to help them dial back, so you can access more of that Self-energy. 

Would you be interested in joining this kind of group so you can learn how to feel calmer and not get so overwhelmed by these thoughts and emotions? 

So you feel more connected to yourself and others? 

And so you can heal the deeper aspects of yourself that still feel out-of-reach, even after years of talk therapy and spiritual practice?

This work can be applied to both your personal and professional life, and it’s work we can’t do on our own (or just by thinking, meditating, journaling, or talking about our issues). 

Relational wounds can only be healed in relationship. We humans are pack animals. We need each other. 

And, it turns out, group therapy can be just as impactful – if not more– than just getting  individual support. 

“Throughout my life, I have experienced different healing modalities to heal trauma. IFS with Sara has been most profound for me.” 

– Anonymous

MY STORY

 

Several years ago, the winds of change swept through my life, blowing down all the identities and structures I’d known as “me” and “my life.”

The instigating blow came when I learned that the man whom I was engaged to had been unfaithful and lying to me for years. 

With trust in myself and my intuition shattered, I entered into a long stretch of deep grief and darkness where I began to ask myself some hard questions:

“What parts of myself have I not been seeing or in touch with that led me to even be attracted to a man like this in the first place?”

“Why did I believe him over my inner guidance? Why did I put someone else’s authority above my own?” 

“How is it that, after twenty years of deep spiritual and psychological work, some fundamental parts of myself are still so severely disconnected?” 

“How can I use this as an opportunity to become so whole and healed, at the deepest levels, that I never find myself in this situation again?”

Deeply committed to actualizing the life I most wanted, I took my healing on with great sincerity. This led me to go even deeper into my psychological healing. 

I did Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, Hakomi, body-centered psychotherapy, shamanic clearings, grief rituals, a lot of talking– and crying.

This all helped, to some extent. 

But, even with the support of these modalities, I still felt like those deeper, more hidden (and, clearly, deeply wounded) parts of myself were unreachable. 

One of my long-time mentors, who’s a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner and had introduced me to that work a couple of years earlier, prodded me to go deeper with it.

“You really need to be working with an IFS therapist once a week right now. There’s no silver bullet. This deep healing takes time, but IFS will allow you to do the healing at the deepest level, if you stick with it,” she urged. 

I knew, from seeing and feeling my mentor’s own depth of wholeness, that I needed to listen to her. Clearly, the path she was following was working for her, and that path included copious amounts of IFS therapy. 

Since healing crises can be expensive, I was able to find an IFS therapist who would (gratefully) work with me weekly on a sliding scale basis. From there, the deep healing began.

 

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“If you want to get out of your own way-work with Sara!” 

– Carrie Haynes; LPC, EMDR Trained 

 

 TRYING EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN

 

Deeply committed to actualizing the life I most wanted, I took my healing on with great sincerity. This led me to go even deeper into my psychological healing. 

I did Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, Hakomi, body-centered psychotherapy, shamanic clearings, grief rituals, a lot of talking– and crying.

This all helped, to some extent. 

But, even with the support of these modalities, I still felt like those deeper, more hidden (and, clearly, deeply wounded) parts of myself were unreachable. 

One of my long-time mentors, who’s a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner and had introduced me to that work a couple of years earlier, prodded me to go deeper with it.

“You really need to be working with an IFS therapist once a week right now. There’s no silver bullet. This deep healing takes time, but IFS will allow you to do the healing at the deepest level, if you stick with it,” she urged. 

I knew, from seeing and feeling my mentor’s own depth of wholeness, that I needed to listen to her. Clearly, the path she was following was working for her, and that path included copious amounts of IFS therapy. 

Since healing crises can be expensive, I was able to find an IFS therapist who would (gratefully) work with me weekly on a sliding scale basis. From there, the deep healing began.

 

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Sara Avant Stover is a pioneering teacher of feminine spirituality, bestselling author, IFS Practitioner & Coach, and yoga and meditation teacher and trainer.

She graduated Phi Beta Kappa and summa cum laude from Columbia University’s all-women’s Barnard College. After a cancer scare in her early twenties, Sara moved to Thailand, where she embarked on a decade-long healing and spiritual odyssey throughout Asia. 

Her own harrowing experience with an abortion several years ago inspires this work today. Her teachings have uplifted the lives of tens of thousands of women worldwide, and she teaches at centers like Kripalu, 1440 Multiversity, and Shambhala Mountain Center. Her work has been featured in Yoga Journal, the Huffington Post, Newsweek, and Natural Health and on ABC, NBC, and CBS. 

 WHAT IS IFS? 

 

An evidence-based psycho-spiritual therapeutic model, Internal Family Systems was founded by Richard Schwartz in the early 1990s while he was working with women suffering from bulimia.

He found that traditional modes of therapy that tried to control or manage the binging/purging behavior only made things worse. Yet, as these women started to speak about “parts” of themselves that made them throw up and other “parts” that then shamed  them for it, Schwartz began to develop a way of relating to one’s inner world as “parts” of oneself.  

Non-demonizing and non-pathologizing, IFS’s core premise is that we have a multiplicity of personalities, or “parts,” within us and that all parts of us are fundamentally good.  

When we experience hardship and trauma and don’t have the support we need to help us through, parts of us become wounded and begin to hold burdens. As we get older, these burdened parts take on extreme roles (as a strong inner critic, a drinking part, a binging part, etc). 

These extreme parts go through great measures to protect the young, wounded parts of us that they locked away deep inside us long ago. They exile them into dark corners of our bodies and minds, for these young parts hold overwhelming feelings like shame, anger, anxiety, loneliness, and sadness.

 

“I have gone further with my healing using IFS with Sara, than a decade with talking therapy. “ 

– Heather Parsons

 WHAT ACTUALLY HEALS US

 

Amidst all of this, we all have a place inside of us that has never been wounded and can handle anything life serves us.

Some traditions call this place inside our Buddha-nature. IFS calls it your Self. From this central place within, we experience more expansive states of being. Things like calmness and compassion, confidence and courage. 

Spiritual practices help to lead us to this space inside. Yet, old wounds and traumas also bury this Self within us, making our own healing clarity hard to access at times, especially when we’re triggered or under stress. 

With IFS, you work with those parts of yourself that can become extreme and overwhelm you (like an anxious part, a depressed part, an overdoing part, a dissociated part, a binging part, etc). In doing so, you learn how to help them dial back, so you can access more of your Self energy.

When we access this state of being, and bring it to the parts of ourselves that have been cut off from it from years (and often decades), old traumas can receive the love they’ve always needed and we begin to heal at the deepest level. 

(Here’s an old video about IFS that I think explains the model very succinctly.) 

While healing is a lifelong journey, through my own patience and perseverance, in partnership with a skilled guide, IFS helped me to this deepest-level healing. 

After trying most everything under the sun, I can confidently say that IFS is the most gentle, effective, and transformative healing modality – both psychologically and spiritually – that I have ever encountered. 

I’m not alone in feeling this way. IFS is the most highly sought-after therapeutic practice in the world. It’s being touted by A-listers like Tim Ferriss, Gwyneth Paltrow, Dan Harriss, and Bessel van der Kolk

And, I’ve felt so impacted and inspired by the life-changing effects of this work within myself that I went on to train in IFS therapy so I could offer it to others. 

For the past year, I’ve been working with more private clients than ever before in my career. We’re traversing deep territory together, healing things like childhood sexual abuse, codependency, narcissistic abuse, shame, self-doubt, people-pleasing, co-dependency, strong inner criticism, and addictions (like smoking, drinking, and binging/purging). 

Since I only see a limited number of private clients each week, I wanted to open up an opportunity to share this work with more people. 

 

 

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 WHY GROUP THERAPY?

 

I know one-on-one therapy can be expensive, so I also wanted to make this work available to women in a group format.

Plus, there’s a different kind of healing that can happen when we do this kind of work in a community. A different kind of magic.

I’m creating this intimate group for 20 women who are inspired by and committed to their own healing paths and would like to go on a profound journey of self-discovery, using the support of the IFS model, me, and a circle of like-minded women.

I can promise you (and I rarely make promises) that you will discover new, wondrous, and unexpected things about yourself in the process. AND that this will be a group experience unlike one you’ve ever had! 

IFS therapists around the world are so highly sought after right now that they have long waiting lists. This is a potent opportunity to experience this work at a lower rate.

 

Here’s how this group will work:

  • A maximum of 20 women (by application only) will be accepted into this group.
  • We’ll meet on 8 Tuesdays from 11 am to 1 pm MT (December 7, December 14, January 4, January 11, January 18, January 25, February 1, February 8).
  • Live attendance for a majority of the 8 sessions is required.
  • To create group safety, no recordings will be available for these sessions.
  • For this to work, this will be an interactive group (Sara will not just be lecturing, etc). Therefore, all participants are required to be on video and are asked to fully engage and participate. 
  • We’ll also have a private, online forum where we can stay connected to one another in between our live sessions
  • When you register, you’ll be asked to fill out an application, and Sara may call you for an interview. If she feels that you wouldn’t be a good fit working together, we’ll give you a full refund upon determining that. 

 

Sessions will include:

  • A guided meditation
  • Group sharing about different parts of you that are activated and alive
  • Spotlight IFS therapy/coaching from Sara
  • Didactic segments where Sara teaches about certain aspects of the IFS model
  • Experiential practices, within the large group, as well as smaller groups
  • Time for Q & A   

This is for you if you: 

  • Have a strong curiosity about and commitment to your psychological healing and spiritual growth
  • Desire to do inner work (including shadow work) within an intimate group, while also getting some personalized attention
  • Are able to attend most of the sessions live and are willing to have your video on and engage with the group process
  • Are wanting support in understanding and healing certain aspects of yourself in a deeper way (anxiety/depression, soft & hard addictions, PTSD, co-dependency, sexual abuse, childhood trauma, big life transitions, aging, inner criticism, over-doing, self-sabotage, grief & heartbreak, and more) 
  • Want to feel less overtaken by strong emotions and self-sabotaging behaviors
  • Want to feel more access to calmness, clarity, creativity, connectedness, compassion, and courage in your daily life

 

 

Heather Parsons

"Working with Sara using IFS has been healing and enlightening. Sara holds a safe space to work with the past and address underlying issues. She is compassionate, intelligent, and mindful. I have been able to untangle a lot of my early childhood trauma and have found more peace and resolve. I have gone further with my healing using IFS with Sara, than a decade with talking therapy. I highly recommend working with Sara and am so grateful she has chosen to use IFS to help others!"

Anonymous

“I was suffering from PTSD from an emotionally abusive relationship I left after 19 years with a narcissist. Old patterns surfaced as a result of childhood trauma that were causing me great pain and confusion. I was feeling helpless and was desperate for change. I am most grateful for discovering Sara and her IFS therapy. The intense collaboration with Sara, through her wisdom, gentle guidance and skill at holding space, are qualities I value and appreciate so much. Through digging deep, reflecting, discovering truths, and the hardest work I’ve ever done, I was inspired and found the light again. Through all the tears, I found joy and hope in every single session. Reuniting me with my intuition is the greatest gift that came out of my sessions along with gaining a sense of wholeness and self compassion. In returning to myself, I became stronger and now know how to set and hold boundaries. Practice is key. Throughout my life, I have experienced different healing modalities to heal trauma. IFS with Sara has been most profound for me."

Carrie Haynes,

LPC, EMDR Trained 

“I reached out to Sara for mentoring and have really benefited from my work with her.  In my sessions, she is able to clearly see when I am in a "part" and to engage with that part compassionately.  Often, I will show up with what I think might be a logistical question and she has skillfully supported me in noticing the deeper process at play.  With her guidance, I can connect with the vulnerable parts of me and offer healing, which then opens up more access to my true nature and innate wisdom.  Doing this work has helped me to feel more centered, clear, and connected to myself.  As a result, I have been moving forward with increased confidence and ease.  Sara is a skillful, compassionate, and gentle guide.  If you want to get out of your own way-work with Sara!  The combination of IFS therapy and Sara's presence is powerful medicine.”.\

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Belong to a safe, wise, and empathic group, where you can heal and come home to your Self,  together.

 

Here, you can tell the truth, let your guard down, and enjoy a group experience unlike any you've ever had!